So, yesterday I turned 49…

geraniums.jpgIt was a lovely day. My mom was here to celebrate with me and we did a birthday lunch. My mom and my sisters have a wonderful birthday lunch tradition, and it’s been about 2 years since I’ve had one, since I moved to Missouri. So, that was very special.  We also spent a few hours at Hobby Lobby, continuing the decorating. When we moved into the new house, I found I had a lot more wall space, and just space in general! My walls are pretty bare. But I prefer to add things that I really love and not just fill the spaces for the sake of filling the spaces.

We talked about how our society has changed. It used to be that when you were in your late 40’s and up, it was ok to look like you were that age. You used to be able to tell the grandma’s from the mom’s and the mom’s from the younger women. Not so much anymore. We are all striving to keep that young look and it doesn’t matter how old you get, you still have to look young. It doesn’t help that singers and actresses are in their 60’s but still looking like they are in their 20’s. For one thing, they have the bucks to make it happen, but really… I thought when I got to be this age, I could relax a little.

My grandma never wore blue jeans, but I do! I never saw either one of my grandma’s wear a T-shirt or lounge around on a lazy day in their jammie pants. I doubt they ever had lazy days.

In all the freedom women have gained over the last 100 years, I think we’ve also lost something. The role lines are blurred past recognition. In our striving to be all we can be, we lost a bit of dignity and a sense of what’s right and what shouldn’t be right. In our efforts to prove we are just as good as a man, we began to view femininity as a sign of weakness. It’s very sad really. We shouldn’t be afraid to be a woman, to look like a woman and to act like a lady. We don’t have to prove anything.

Saturday night Mike and I went to a Kansas concert. It was fun and we had a good time. What was interesting to me, aside from the band, was the diversity of people attending. Most were our age, and you could tell from a glance who had moved on and who hadn’t. Many people there still lived in the 70’s. Women in their 30’s and 40’s, looked like they hadn’t taken very good care of themselves, long hair, no makeup, and wearing the T-shirts with no bra. This was attractive in the 70’s when were 18 – it’s not so attractive now!

I don’t advocate that we all begin to wear dresses to the grocery store and suits with little hats to church.  That’s not my point at all. But, let’s not forget that we are women and let ourselves indulge our femininity, and let ourselves wear dresses if we want to, and learn some basic etiquette  and learn some basics in taking care of ourselves.

Well, that was an interesting bunny trail. I really didn’t intend to go there, but since my fingers did… I’ll keep it. 🙂

Don’t forget, I still have one more space on PIF!!!!!


9 Responses to “So, yesterday I turned 49…”

  1. Joanna Says:

    I love this post and totally agree. We should celebrate being women and that it’s a good thing to be feminine! I don’t want to be a man or man-like, that’s for sure! Thanks for the reminder 🙂

  2. Karen Says:

    Thanks Joanna. I love being a woman, wouldn’t want it any other way! 🙂

    this also means you’re my 3rd PIF!!!!!! yippeeeeeeee! I’ll be touch via email.

  3. Mike Says:

    I am so blessed to have you for my wife. You are exactly right. I am proud of you and the way you take care of and present yourself. You are a beautiful woman and everytime I go somewhere it reinforces my feelings for you. I see other women who don’t seem to care what they look like and that is a shame. Men too. It was amazing how disgusting some people looked and smelled.
    Love you.

  4. col/roxtarchic Says:

    Happy Birthday!!! and i havta tell you… my nana NEVER wore shoes that were “casual” i dont think i ever saw her in shoes that didnt have a heel, nor did i EVER see her w/out stockings either. and it’s funny, but i apparently have inherited the shoe trait… i’m the one rocking the heels in home depot (ok, maybe not in my current condition… altho i WILL admit that i’m still in the 4 inch heels at the office)!

    hope all your birthday wishes come true! 😉

  5. Tammom Says:

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, DEAR ONE!!! I’m SO blessed to have you in my life! And Mike, too, obviously (although he doesn’t “know” me) … because he’s just the sweetest man around!

    I’m sorry, I didn’t even KNOW this! It’s on my calendar now, though !

    Amazingly, I was just having this “taking care of your body” talk with our 12 yo this past week. Brush teeth? Wash face? Lotion legs after shaving? Put on deoderant? I did not have a mother to share and teach me these things as a child … I learned them the hard way. But, I did have a host of women who tried to show me how to be a lady. Sometimes I even listened!

    My grandma was the most special person in my life growing up and although she wasn’t much of a mother to her own children, she was the WORLD to me. She wore house dresses and an apron ALL the time … but, when she went to the pub on Friday night, she’d put on a pair of polyester slacks … because it was a place for a woman, not a lady (in her opinion). I still laugh at some of the antics she pulled while in her slacks – things she’d NEVER do in her daily dresses!

    Anyways, thanks for the blessings today.

  6. Karen Says:

    I sure do have wonderful people in my life, and am continually blessed beyond my wildest dreams.

    🙂 I could just sit and smile all day 🙂

  7. Joanna Says:

    I just saw that I am your 3rd PIF – it took me a while to figure that one out, but figure it out I did, and I would be honored to PIF too!

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